Another Friend of the Family

I don't believe anyone is defending the accused. I think there is a split decision here. Some have judged him already without any facts and some know he is innocent until proved to be guilty. Nobody has accused the kids of making this up. I, too am a friend of the family. With that being said, you also know in your heart that this man is innocent. You, too also know all he ever did was work and take care of his wife and step kids. There is reason to believe per your comment that there is doubt among the family that the kids told the truth and you're coming to their defence. Did they tell the truth? It's a known fact that a lot of people are punished by the system because of others being dishonest. Per the accused, I wouldn't be afraid to leave him alone with my own kids. I would bet my life on the fact he is innocent.

FRIEND OF THE FAMILY

THOSE OF YOU DEFENDING THIS INDIVIDUAL MUST OBVIOUSLY BE ON HIS SAME LEVEL. THESE CHILDREN WOULD NOT MAKE UP THINGS LIKE THIS. WHAT THEY NEED NOW IS SUPPORT AND COMPASSION FOR WHAT THEY HAVE GONE THROUGH. I PRAY THIS INDIVIDUAL GETS ALL THE LAW WILL ALLOW BECAUSE THERE IS NO PUNISHMENT THAT WE ON THIS EARTH CAN APPLY TO THIS PERSON. ONE DAY THE GOOD LORD WILL ASK HIM SOME QUESTIONS AND HE WILL HAVE TO ANSWER THEM. PLEASE DO NOT PERSECUTE THE FAMILY AND VICTIMS. I KNOW THEM AND THEY ARE TRULY INNOCENT. PLEASE ALLOW THE COURTS TO DO WHAT THEY ARE DESIGNED FOR AND HAVE FAITH THAT THEY WILL WORK. HAVE FAITH AND PLEASE PRAY FOR THE FAMILY. THEY NEED YOUR PRAYERS AND SUPPORT AT THIS TIME.

Concerned Female

Women are normally homemakers, men are normally bread winners. Both are respectful positions in society, only one provides a household. Both take the same effort. This is great when men and women agree on that being the arrangement, or vice versa. If a woman gets her GED as a homemaker, while working part time and doing so, even better. No women reading this need ever be financially dependent on a man. We need to be financillay independent, protect our children, and in turn I feel we will meet and be with good honest men. If they turn out to be molesters, prosecute always, be strong and move on. Understand if your children cannot tell you of the horrors that have happened to them, when they were small and vulnerable. The cycle must stop with strong women and honest Father's, who are consistent role models to their sons and daughters. Ignore any other comment. The day in court is a duh huh, this is a tell it how you see and feel it blog, and that's what we are writing about how we are suffering together, and will continue to do so until we are bored.

It is amazing that vigalante justice is still so prevelant. I have been in these shoes. My husband was accused with 2 counts. They were both untrue. After 3 months 7 1/2 days, my husband was finally able to have his moment in court. He wasnt guilty. But the post found it in their budget, to print an article like the one above when he was charged. And a 1 line diddy, saying that he was innocent. It is unfair to accuse someone in the newspaper. I don't know this family, I don't know anything about these circumstances. I am stating don't jump to conclusions. If everyone has their mind set already, how will this person ever have a fair trial. That is guaranteed to us by the Constitution. One thing our lawyer said as we were going through our ordeal, is you can charge a ham sandwich with anything. Please understand, I am not passing judgement either way. No matter the outcome, those kids will need someone to talk to, and to support them. But let's not jump the gun, and go for the lynch mob!

Your Friend

It is definitely wrong to state the identity of any victim including the accused. You see, the more I read over the comments, the more I realize the comments were made by Mom and her sister. Too many clues. The man hasn't had his day in court. Don't be so quick to judge him. This could turn out to be a real eye opener.

A Friend of the Family and not Bobby

I hope this newspaper isn't bias on comments and hope this one makes it. This has all been one sided. Most against the accused and judging him but nobody has ever suggested that the kids might be covering for the mother. She did not work and should have known everything that went on. A google search shows she got her GED this year so if one of you wants to hire her, go ahead. The facts just don't add up. How can you pity her when he hasn't been convicted?

The recommendation for this woman is glowing. Wow! What kind of recent work experience does she have?

Concerned Citizen and friend of the victim and the accused

If I had a company, I would love to employ her. She is great with people, dedicated to her work. She has help with the children if needed for work, and has some varied experience. I pray this will come for her. I pray she can go to college after this experience and become financillay independent. Maybe someday, when the pain of losing her husband, and her family being shattered, she will love again. Maybe that man will appreciate a beautiful, loving, giving wife, who only wants to work hard and give her children the love and upbringing they deserve.

Some generous person out there could offer that woman a job.

If you know this family, please help the mother with everything you have. Even after this tragedy, she is making tough decisions to support this. Her character is tested, and as expected, she is stepping up to the plate, making the tough decisions, to heal her family and herself. She gave generously to this marriage, and now she should be rewarded. She will ask for nothing, but she needs everything. Compare this tragedy to a home fire and total loss of home, job, security, and everything. They are starting over, and need our time, money, love, prayers, future time, future money, future love and future prayers, to overcome a once in a lifetime tragedy. Don't forget the trial will also come. How much can they take? Let's don't let them find out. Lets make sure we carry them through this together. I need your help. Remember, she won't ask for anything and needs everything. So you will have to force any help on her and can't accept a no answer. Let's keep this family and those brothers together.

Sick in MB

It is beyond wrong to ever release the name or assume the identity of suspected victims. These children are very innocent and their lives have been shattered. Their mother loved this man with all her heart and is a very loving and dedicated mother who would have never in a million years thought that this would or could happen in her home. She is always there and always attentive to her children so this man had to be very sneaky and hide this extremely well. None the less we should never make the identity of these children known. They will live with this for the rest of their lives and should never be ashamed of what happened to them as they are the true innocent. Anyone who would stand behind a family member when you have not just one but three victims is just as sick as he is and is probally one of the main reasons this is a continued cycle with this man. We all need to pray to God to keep this mother and her children in our thoughts and prayers as they are the ones who ned and deserve it. This makes me sick to my stomach as it would any mother or human being. Why does he deserve a fair trial, did he give these children a fair chance. There is no reason to believe these children are lying or that their mother is out to cause harm to him in anyway. As stated she was very much in love with her husband and trusted him with her life. He should not have been given bond at all. Statistics do show that these pedophiles do repeat their crimes numerous times and for the most part are never caught. Being a vicitm of molestation myself this is something that you never forget regarless. We always go on with our lives however we always live in fear for our children and worry about the well being of all children. Pray for this mother as she needs all the support and deserves all the support that we can offer her.

Shannon B....they were not seperated. She was very much in love with her husband. There was no trouble. The children's mother was completely and totally blind sided. So...no....it doesn't apply here.

Ann Campbell

This is more than a shred of a story.This is about our sick society and the epitome of evil injustice subjected to the small and meek of our world.I agree that we shouldn't crucify someone until proven guilty,but,I am very ecstatic to find so many people ready for a moral war against the perpetrators of such heinous acts against our children.This is not something the Post is reporting just for the sake of selling newspapers.This is just one instrument being utilized to inform the general public of the seriousness of such crimes.And it is often the type of crime that never gets reported and the children continue to die an emotional death.....

Shannon B.

I'm not sure if this applies here, but in a lot of divorce cases, a mother can allege the father is abusing the children. They are kept away from him for as long as 6 months to investigate the charges. I've seen this happen ! Divorces can be extremely ugly. Today's media is so hungry for a story like this. They jump on any shred of a story and go nuts with it. Can we all try to think back to the Duke Lacrosse deal... if you're simple little minds can think back that far ? If he's guilty, he will suffer the consequences. If he's not guilty...well, he'll still suffer the consequences. The Salisbury Post, as well as other media outlets need to sell ads. They do it by sensationalizig stories like this and getting people like you all riled up about it. Like it or not, we have a judicial process in place in America which entitles this guy, as well as you and your loved ones, a fair trial. He is innocent until proven guilty. That same process protects those little guys who were allegedly abused. If you were in his shoes...or the little ones' shoes, you would want justice to come through for you. What is also ironic here, is those of you who quote the bible, then turn right around and judge. You are pathetic.

I do not know this Bobby person but does he have children we should be praying for?

friend of family

I too, am a victim of abuse, my father, someone i should be able to love and trust, tried to solicit sex from me, pressure me, threaten me, and emotionally acused me of not loving him, anything to be able to molest or abuse me..., ..... I feel for these children that have been abused by someone that they should have been able to trust, and feel safe and loved by. They will forever be scarred by this, for the rest of their prescious lives, and for some foolish idiot to want to support the man that did this???? What a fool! Children are the innocent ones, and no child would lie about such a thing! This man should never be able to walk the streets again... for all of the friends and family members.... I pray for you all, my heart goes out to you.

We love the family that is suffering

Helping your Family : Saturday, August 23, 2008 12:02 PM I would just like to say that family members should support each other. I can't believe that someone in this family would desert them at their time of need. Why would you support the person who committed the crime. These are children that can not defend themselves. Where are your family values and morals. Their Mom is suffering and needs all the support that her family can give her. Step up to the plate and help them instead of critizing them. This is the best comment yet!! Hooray for supporting this family!! They need us. They need heros and miracles right now. God Bless Them.

I would just like to say that family members should support each other. I can't believe that someone in this family would desert them at their time of need. Why would you support the person who committed the crime. These are children that can not defend themselves. Where are your family values and morals. Their Mom is suffering and needs all the support that her family can give her. Step up to the plate and help them instead of critizing them.

I just pray for these boys and the people that thankful got them away from this sick man. Thankfully someone was brave and come forward~ May God bless this family and give them strength.

regaurdless of what you say the man has rights until proven guilty if you can read go back and read my first post. yes i think the whole situation is terrible im not condoning it by no means. as for you taking cracks at me personally thats fine i can live with it because at no time in any of my post have i said one word about anyone in a negative way. so all of you can think what you want about me. last time i checked we still lived in the land of the free and the right to have our own opinion.the whole point in my first post was you should not judge someone for what they have been accused of until proven guilty. but hey if i have offended anyone with this then im sorry you will never hear another word from me from now on.

Family of victim

Bobby, you are the one being closed minded in my view. I could see Don's family out here supporting him. But I think you know what happened here, because you have relations with the victims family. What is your real motive for being out here creating trouble during a tragedy? Everytime you blog, even without your name, your writing style gives you away. You came right to the defense of Don, with no regard for family or those children. You know it is not bull. People have argued here about what the real world of molestation is like, and it is mostly a secret the victims carry with them due to embarassment. Apoligizes would be appreciated, but I don't expect that from you. You have proven to be more distasteful than we thought of you before your blog about this future pedophile. Did you see the article about this being the forth report in a couple of days in this area, or that there are 94 registered sex offenders in the Salisbury area. He'll get his day in court, on my tax dollar, and I will be glad to see him serve his punishment in prison. Even if the victims' punishment is eternal.

Are you suggesting that the law should bypass this man's right to a fair trial, and proceed directly to punishment? If so, what if YOU or a member of YOUR family were wrongfully accused? What safeguards, or technicalities, would you avail yourself of, to prevent being punished for a crime you didn't commit?

This is for anyone that may think this man is innocent. How do you know he is innocent? Unless you are familiar with or have personal experience in any type of child molestation/abuse situations you don't have a clue. A child does not make up stories of this magnitude normally. Most adults and especially family members refuse to believe the children/victims. They are in denial!!!! I agree it is hard to fathom a so called loving family member would do such a thing, but it is true they do!! EVERYDAY. Open up your eyes and look around you. This person should be held to the highest punishment the law allows. Mostly because he came into the lives of this family under a lie as to what he really is.

you know it's a sad day that people are so close minded that they are already putting the nails in his coffin. if he did it then he just burn for it but you have to be open minded enough to let the facts come out and let him have his day in court.

Renee White

Excuse me while I help this person off his holy rolling pedestal. Give me a break. You mouth off the bible like you know it. You are one of those people that use the bible to suit your purposes. I would bet a paycheck it has been many years since you stepped through the doors of a church. You show me in the bible where it says it's ok to abuse children. You want 2 witnesses? If I read the story right, there were 3 boys. So there are your 2 witness plus an extra! I notice you didn't put your name on your post. You defend this person but don't have the nerve to do it publicly. Makes a person wonder.

Family of victim

Come back and quote scripture once he pleads guilty. He practically already has, just logistics now. Bobby, your comment is still unbelievable.

why is this man's bond 50,000 and the man from kannapolis is 250,000? Men (boys) as victems don't get respect under the law. 3 victems, 1/5th the bond of 2 in kannapolis.

why is this guy's bond less than the kannapolis man's? He had 3 victems, where as the kannapolis man's had 2 victems.

Annie

Would you be so accepting of this man and his fate if this had happened to your child?? I hope your answer is NO!!! And the very sad truth is,our justice system is failing to protect our children.Current laws must be changed so that the harshest sentence can be imposed upon these vile and most wicked of soul individuals.When they are able to post bond,do you not think they will search out their innocent victims while awaiting trial? I can promise anyone reading this that I will never offer any sympathy to these lower forms of life.If they were abused and molested as a child,then that is the part I can sympathize with.But to continue the cycle is where their crime begins.They would know better than anyone blogging this story,the fear and shame,the ultimate betrayal they have been subjected to,not to mention the emotional and physical pain that comes with the committed act.And always think with the heart of a GOOD parent in that you would never want this to happen to your child.And yes,everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt,and innocent until proven guilty.I do however have a problem with them being found "not guilty" due to some legal loophole BULL CRAP!!!

Innocent until proven guilty is not merely a Constitutional requirement. It is founded in Biblical truth (two witnesses required for a finding of guilt). Don't crucify a man based on a charge, an accusation, or an indictment. Let justice proceed, and let him have his day before a jury of 12 of his peers. He may not be guilty, and right now, only the Lord and this man know the truth. May the truth prevail, whatever it is.

Concerned and loving family member

Outing these kids to the public was bad enough, innocent or guilty. Family support of a soon to be registered sex offender was bad enough. Blogging to support an innocent until proven guilty registered sex offender is unbelieveable. When your children are molested, or you find out the woman you love was raped as a child, blog then. Just unbelievable. Look on the internet and see the statistics of how many children are violated each day. See how many charities work to help those children. Those are the ones that tell. Some of us don't prosecute. Some of us live with what these inhumane people did to us. And we are cowards, because when we don't prosecute. The predator keeps doing it over and over. So sad. It is the single most powerful pain that a person can suffer and carry with them for a life time.

It is people like you, Bobby, that enable the acts of these sickos. So sit back and think of not what you feel or think, but what the children are going through. Walk down the road in their shoes...Can you see their anguise, can you feel their fear, do you sense their embarrasment? Probably not...just because of the type of person YOU are. Of course there are things that need to be proven, but saying he's innocent is just as much bull and not back with facts as can be. May you be stricken with the nightmares that these children have had and will have.

Amy

Yeah well Bobby Lewis Jr.....I know those kids and their mom and you are a misguided idiot. To think that 3 boys could make up such a story is just crazy. Abusers have power over their victims and are conniving enough to make others around them think they are the greatest people. The fact that you would side with a soon to be convicted felon says a lot about you. You are a sad sad individual. You apparently need as much help as he does. Unless of course you are an abuser yourself and feel a kinship with that scum.

Janet Dennis

This person may think he knows this guy, well, just as the person before said, he could have fooled anyone. That is how they ingratiate themselves into peoples lives. They disguise themselves as concerned people, volunteer to work with kids, present themselves as family men, etc.. They are often the most trusted of community people. Predators do not look like the boogey man. You can work with some one, go to church with them, even be married to them, and it does not mean that you know what they are doing. The most you will ever you is the face they are using in front of you. It is a daily event here and every where else,to read in the papers where some one has moleseted a child. The statistics show for every abuse these people are charged with, there is an average 128 abuses they have commited which never have been reported. This is one mental problem they do not get over. It is as basic in their sexual make up and behavior as whether or not one is gay, or straight. It is there and it is not going to get cured. There needs to come a day where these people receive maximum sentences. The sentences available need to be reviewed and toughened up.

bobby lewis jr

you know it is still innocent until proven guilty you cant just jump the gun i know this guy and it is bull

This man worked in my home and was fully trusted.His humble appearance would have come close to fooling the God I worship....His construction work was amazing,but now, I physically get sick when I look at everything he touched in my home.Please pray for the children and their mother, because the world they knew has been completely shattered.

This man needs to be in jail for along time with no bond. It's breaks my heart when I hear about these issues. I dont see why or how anybody would ever want to take a child's innocence and do those things to them.

It's in situations like this and the Kannapolis child abuse case from yesterday that you wish we still had the public square! You now have to hope that these boys get the proper help they need and not be abused by the system so that this does not repeat itself as it often does.