Patti Safrit didnt have any idea what the letters stood for when she got the note. Still doesnt.
But she knew what BVDs were.
Underwear. Mens underwear. Lightweight, loose,
one-piece underwear, with front buttons and back flaps.
And when I got that note ...
Well, if she hadnt gotten that note then, she
wouldnt own Bloomers Greenhouse and Garden Shop now and be celebrating its first
birthday out on Highway 29 South?
But the name connection youre noticing already
BVDs, Bloomers, aha! underwear! is, alas, inaccurate. The only connection these
BVDs and Bloomers have is love and kindness, but thats getting ahead of the story
because Patti Safrit got that note 20 years ago.
Thats when she was a secretary for Ithaca, a company
that made mens T-shirts and underwear for JCPenney and Sears in the building that
became Brendles and is now the Rowan County Health Department.
If she hadnt been the secretary, somebody else would
have gotten the note. But she was and opened the envelope and read the request from a
woman in Florida looking for BVDs for her husband.
I knew exactly what she was talking about,
Patti says, because my grandpaw wore BVDs. I even called my grandpaw. He was Delmer
Goodman. You must have known my grandpaw. Everybody knew him. He made keys at
Bernhardts Hardware.
They didnt know him just because he cut keys two days
a week.
It was that he always had something to say while he cut
em.
Like his explanation for bald-headed men, of which he was
one.
The Lord only created so many bald-headed men,
hed explain, and the balance of them He covered with hair.
And strawberries.
I saw a man on a farm putting chicken manure around
them, he used to say, so I said, I put cream and sugar on my
strawberries!
But Grandpaw couldnt help Patti, so she called around
but couldnt find any BVDs for the ladys husband in Florida.
So I wrote her and told her the places I had checked
Hanes and everybody. I probably tried three or four places. And a week later I got
a card from her with a $10 bill in it. She said I should buy a box of candy. But I sent it
back.
With another note, of course, explaining that said she
couldnt keep the money.
I told her Id want someone to help my grandpaw
if he couldnt find any BVDs.
Well, the lady in Florida Lila, her name was, Lila
Schenck wrote back. And that was the beginning.
We started writing, Patti says. Like pen pals.
Like they were the same age instead of being generations apart. Why, Patti was only 18.
Lila was about 70.
But age didnt matter. They wrote, told each other
everything. Lila told Patti she and Bill had lived in Chicago and moved to Florida when he
retired. Patti told Lila about her family and her job.
I went through a divorce, and she was always there,
encouraging me. And when I remarried, she sent me a check and said she wanted to buy me a
wedding dress. I invited her for Thanksgiving and Christmas, but she didnt feel
comfortable traveling. Id send her little packages for Christmas and her birthday,
and shed send me a picture of her Christmas tree.
We went through weddings and the birth of
children, she says, and when Lilas husband died on their 50th wedding
anniversary, she wrote Patti all about it. They went out to dinner. They knew he was
sick, and he died during the night. Theyd had one child who died when she was 2 of
spina bifida. And I wrote her when my grandparents died.
She was so sweet. It was just like having another
grandma in Florida.
And finally, the first weekend in May two years ago, Patti
and her family went to Orlando, Fla. Lila lived on the Gulf.
It was only 2
By then Lila was 89, and of course it was OK,. So Patti
packed her car with plants and dirt and went.
That was two years ago this week, she says.
And I planted her a garden. She had this beautiful house. I had squash and cucumbers
from Rowan County, and I said, Lets put them here in the circle drive.
It was a wonderful visit, and Patti wrote and told her so,
and Lila wrote about the garden.
Then in June she wrote and said she knew when I was
there that she had cancer, Patti says, but she elected not to take treatment
for it. She said, My parents taught me that the best is yet to come. Im not
afraid. I know each day that passes, I get closer to my husband and my little girl
again. I immediately wrote her.
And on Aug. 30 she went back.
A friend went along. We stayed at a hotel but spent a
lot of time with her both days, she says, planting and talking, having tea on
the sun porch and sharing pictures.
A nurse staying with her took a picture of us
together. She had really wasted away. Mentally she was as sharp as a tack. She
wouldnt ride in a wheelchair but would push it for support.
Before they left, she took Patti to her closet and loaded
her with clothes.
She was a little petite lady. Im much larger,
but she said maybe there was someone I could give them to.
When we left, I told her, Ive got all
your clothes in the car. Just go with me. But she hugged me and patted my cheek and
said when she was gone, she was going to look after me. I was thinking she was going to
put a good word in for me with the Big Man, and I said, I need all the help I can
get. She just kind of laughed and patted my cheek. I was thinking she meant
shed be my guardian angel, and I thought, Well, shell be a good
one.
And she had put together this little box of stuff she
thought I might want her husbands pocket watch and old coins and things like
that. And some pictures of her and her husband in their early days in Chicago where
he was in real estate.
She said, Youre the kind of person this
might mean something to.
And Patti came home.
And then someone called me and told me she had passed
away that day. It was Sept. 30, one month to the day from when we were there.
There was no service. She was being cremated. No
place to send flowers. They flew her remains to Chicago to be with her husband and her
little girl.
But her favorite color was pink, and Patti had planted some
pink day lilies when she was down there.
Just kind of knowing that helped me get through
it.
And the shock came a couple of months later when Patti got
a letter from a lawyer.
Lila Schenck had left her $20,000 in her will.
She couldnt even say thank you. Nobody in the family
was left.
But she could remember that pat on the cheek during the
second visit and Lilas promise to look after her, and she and her husband,
Lewis Safrit, had those greenhouses back of their house where she potted plants and had
some family treasures that had been started in her grandmothers garden and ...
Was her dream of a greenhouse and garden shop about to come
true?
She had been the school representative for Coca-Cola for 15
years and passed a little gray building with a white picket fence that she loved on her
way back and forth to work every day. It used to be Dr. Bob Curls chiropractic
office.
I always looked at the For Lease sign in
the window, and thought about how perfect it would be for a shop and greenhouses.
And she hardly had to think about what she wanted to do
with the money.
Shed sent pictures of her greenhouses to Lila and
wrote that someday she hoped theyd grow into a garden shop.
She really encouraged me, Patti says. And
$20,000 was enough to get started. Youd still have to work hard, but it would open
the doors and get it rolling.
Shed quit her job and devote full time to the garden
shop. Lewis would stay with his night job at GE but help the rest of the time, and he
started immediately.
He came home one day, Patti says, and
said, I thought of the name Bloomers. I loved it. Then he came in and
said, I thought of a slogan Business is Blooming. I thought, He
cant be two for two.
But why not? Hes already two for two.
Hes my best friend and my partner, she
says. It never would have happened without all his hard work. We leased it and moved
two of our greenhouses here and did a lot of work inside, and its going real well.
It is living a dream. We had hoped to open some day,
but we had known the most we could do was sell out of the two greenhouses. What Lila did
was let us get on the main road and jump in.
If someone had told me something like this could
happen, I never would have believed it. Its like one of those things you read that
happens to someone else. When I think back to that first letter about BVD underwear ...
(And P.S. You want to know what the letters BVD stand for?
Well, just wait. Thats coming next because neither Patti nor I could stand not
knowing.)